My Coaching Point of View

In my life and for many I work with, a significant contributor to the imbalance between ‘doing’ and ‘being’ is the loss of spiritual connection. By spiritual connection, I mean that deep, root level connection with ourselves, all that surrounds us, and with that which is greater than ourselves. 

As tired achievers, it’s easy for us to lose this deeper connection because we’re caught up in the relentless doing. Then throw into the mix challenges like divorce, career changes, and/or health and financial issues. 

These kinds of painful uncertainties almost amplify our over-functioning and hypervigilance. We often meet the difficulties head on by doing more, which in the beginning may be necessary for running the gauntlet.

For me, the ‘doing, doing, doing’ was not only necessary to rebuild my life after divorce and a job change, it was also my distraction. Distraction from the grief that was deep and intense. And it still revisits, even after 7 years of healing. Ah grief…, you saucy minx. 

And frankly, it’s easy to get seduced by external pressures to produce and perform, especially during challenging times. We’re more vulnerable to wanting our worth to be validated. So, we keep doing more and more, hoping to feel seen and for our efforts to be acknowledged.

And when they aren’t, we keep trying, sometimes even harder.

And then we get caught in that pace, and we’re depleted on multiple levels (physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual).  

The longer the constant ‘doing’ mode continues the more it becomes our normal. Eventually, we lose ourselves and the very connections we long for are overshadowed by the tension inside us. 

We’re exhausted but driven. Overwhelmed but determined. And so we’re caught.

I’ve experienced and seen how spiritual connections ease this tension, and support the energetic shift to rebalance the ‘doing’ with more ‘being.’

A restorative pauses invite this deeper connection by taking a closer look at our story (the ‘Who’), the choices we’re making, and energetically how we’re showing up. 

I created this Venn diagram to represent the interplay between our ‘Who,’ the power of choice, and energy. And at the center, where these parts intersect, is spiritual connection. 

(Canva, template by @reallygreatsite)

A restorative pause is an invitation to see how spiritual connection and these three elements are currently playing out in your life, and how they may support your desire for greater ‘being’ and reconnection. 

This approach and the six areas of a restorative pause listed here are simply a map. You lead what we focus on and the directions we take in each of the areas.

• Acknowledge & Celebrate offer recognizing, honoring, being in awe.

• Release & Rest offer letting go, shedding, tending, self-caring

• Regather & Reignite offer discerning, resourcing, redirecting, re-beginning

While we visit these areas and how they connect to your ‘Who,’ power of choice, and energy, we’ll stay open to insights and new, more purposeful intentions for moving forward. We’ll also create practices to reconnect with yourself and others.

If you wish, you’ll have these insights, clearer intentions, and practices to use beyond our work together.

Disclaimer: As mentioned on my Home page, I am not a religious guide or mentor. I don’t have and won’t give spiritual or religious answers. And besides, I don’t have them!

Those answers are already inside you and within your spiritual community.